What do I write about and why?

I mainly write about topics that have to do with a childfree lifestyle. The reason behind it is that I have always known I don’t want to have children, however, as a woman, I have felt pressure to have kids all my life. This pressure has come from different sources (friends, family, and society in general), and…

I’m fed up with it! I’ve had enough.

And just like me, many women (and men) are going through this, therefore, I wanted to create a safe space for people to read about topics that are not so conventional such as enjoying a childfree life and everything that comes with it.

Every time I verbalize that “I’m voluntarily childfree, I don’t want to have children” I face a lot of judgment from everybody and people tend to go on by giving me the typical: “Oh, you are still too young to know, you will see how you’ll change your mind”. I’m so tired of people thinking that the ones who voluntarily choose to not have children will, at some point, change their minds… Why should we? What makes people think that we have to change our minds? Why should everybody have children?!

I decided to create this blog to contribute to the destigmatization of the childfree choice.

I believe that a life without kids is a wonderful life and that everybody should have the chance to, at least, consider it. Not everybody wants to be a mum or a dad, and this should be respected. So, if you are interested in reading about things like the benefits of not having children, holidays without children, what to do with the money you save by not having kids, and what to do if you regret never becoming a parent, you are in the right place!

Come join me, and don’t hesitate to get in touch if you feel like we could collaborate! I would love to meet you and hear your story :). I try to be as inclusive as humanely possible, however, I might miss some stuff. Do you feel like you are not represented enough on Voluntarily Childfree? Please let me know! I would love to hear from you.

There are more people than we know that don’t want to have children. However, most of the time we don’t hear about them. We only hear about the wonderful stories of brave mums and dads combining work and parenting, and we are bombarded with “how heroic is that!”. Society makes us believe that this is the path we should be taking. But I, like many others, don’t buy that. I believe that there are different paths to be taken and each of them will be good for whoever chooses it. 

Furthermore, I have never had a lot of people to relate to when it comes to not having children and that has led to me feeling alone, misunderstood, and quite hopeless. Through my blog, I want to let other men and women know that they are not alone.

As women, we are taught that we have to be mothers and fulfill our biological purpose. Only then, we will be worth it, and we will live a happy and fulfilled life. I’ve been called selfish for not wanting children and people have told me that what I want is not natural because “that’s why I have a womb; to have children”.

Let’s change that!

I would like to make it very clear that I am not against people having kids, and I am not saying that one lifestyle is better than the other.

I am simply celebrating the choice to be childfree.
What do I believe in?
  • Honest communication.
  • Free information: Information is power and the key to a better world.
  • Authenticity, Respect & Equality.
  • Hedonism: Let’s enjoy as much as we can, shouldn’t we? 
  • Self-development: Be the best version of yourself.
  • Love makes the world a better place (corny but, in my opinion, one of the biggest truths).
What do I like?
  • Food: I LOVE food.
  • Bouldering and Rock-climbing.
  • Solo traveling.
  • Music: Anything from Rock, Punk, Blues, Jazz, Roots Reggae, Dub to Techno.
  • Hearing other people’s stories and sharing mine.
  • People: I’m genuinely interested in humans, I love to observe them and understand why they do the things they do.

 

Thank you very much for reading me! I hope you enjoy my blog and that it makes you realize that you are not alone.

xx

Anna